Have you ever had one of those days where you got so worried about something -- money, your relationship, your kids, etc. that you were ready to completely give up? That happened to me recently. I was at wits end with facing a struggle with something that I've faced before, thought was over and it was back.
I was so frustrated to be worrying about the same thing again. But the most wonderful thing happened. I got 2 great messages to help me move past it.
1. The first was that I was reminded that the first step is to accept it and ask if you can do anything to change it. If you can't, surrender and let go. It is in the resistance that it pains us so much.
2. The second came from a call Sugata (my husband) and I had with his business coach (KC Hildreth) for our business Cadence Research & Consulting.
It takes up an inordinate amount of time and energy to worry. So often when we get into a worry mode, our fear rises and we then spend all our time trying to cope with our feelings rather than moving forward. I'm sure if you've been there you'll know how true this is.
So KC was coaching us on business development and he said when it comes to sales success, a tiny percent of sales people account for the vast majority of sales in any industry. Why? Because those few people have figured out how to deal with worry. They recognize that it is there, and then get back to what they can control... which is to call the next customer or take the next action. Imagine if you only gave worry 1 hour of space in an entire month and the rest of the time you remembered to just move forward and take the next step, having faith that your energy was best spent there.
When he said it, I knew it was true. I swear it is that simple.
PS - and if you are so in worry that you can't function. Just take the first action needed to calm yourself down - call a friend, cry until you are done, write out your worries and then let them go, take a walk, eat an ice cream cone... you get the picture. (Think how it never helps to give into a 3 year-old's tantrum). Love yourself, but don't coddle!
The first step to changing anything is accepting it and taking responsibility for where you are. Then you know - if you got into this then you can get out of it. You are that powerful!
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